If your goal is to get your ex back your first step should be to do as much damage control as possible. Just like any crisis situation, your first impulse may be to just try to save the relationship at any cost. You might want to dive in head first wanting to fix but as a result you will probably wind up doing more damage than if you had left well enough alone. This is why damage control is a crucial step in getting your ex back.
So what exactly are we talking about when we refer to damage control? In short, the best thing that you can do to limit the amount of damage to your relationship and thus shorten the amount of time it will take to get your ex back is to remove yourself from the situation. Emotions are probably running high and misunderstandings can and will happen. Anything that you do at this point will be twisted and your motives will be suspect.
Calling, texting, emailing, showing up at your ex’s place or work are definitely things that you should avoid at all costs just after the breakup. Any attempt to talk your ex out of breaking up with you will be met with resistance so all efforts to do so are not worth the effort. All you will be doing is annoying your ex and making yourself appear needy and making your ex feel powerful and justified in breaking up with you.
